Monday, July 10, 2006
I wonder if the abuser every realizes the life time of pain they cause their victims. I know that statistics show most abuser were also a victim of child abuse themself. What prevents the one that was abused, from becoming an abuser him or herself? Do all children that are abused become "victims" or "abuser" ? I look in my family history. I was abuse as a child. I married someone that was abused as child. His father was a child molester, he became a child molester. What chances do the children have? His daughter from the 2nd marriage was removed from their home. He admitted he had molested her and states he may have molested our two children. What are their changes? My oldest child, who is now an adult, "T" has asked that I come to a meeting to "fill in the blanks". My oldest has totally "blacked out" his childhood. It sound all too much like the first 18 years of my life. I blocked out it all, but it didn't go away. I t continued to effect every part of my life. I wish I had not been so blinded by my pass. Maybe I could have seen this. Maybe I wouldn't have worked so much. Now all I want to do is to help those that are hurt. Yes I'm healing. Yes it hard work. If this can be broken, what ever the cost, it must stop! No child should be hurt. Child abuse hurts.