Monday, July 17, 2006

Hurt


  • A few quick questions. I'm not an expert on emotions. I shut them off most of my life, so I am just asking theses questions to honestly get information from others. Let me know what you think about these questions.
  • Can you only be hurt it you let someone hurt you?
  • Can you be hurt through no fault of your own?
  • Is being hurt a sign of weakness?

13 comments:

jumpinginpuddles said...

we were hurt through no fault of our own. We didnt let them people hurt us they took the liberty in doing so and we hurt because of it, does that answer them ?

jumpinginpuddles said...

oh and hurt being a sign of weakness? No we see hurt being a sign of strength is takes a strong person to recognise they hurt and even stronger one to want to deal with it. Its always far easier to run away than confront

Dreaming again said...

Yes, you can be hurt when it isn't your fault. Other's have free will and can do and say things that strike a nerve with us.

Look at my relationship with my Dad ... I never asked him to treat me the way he did ..and I try to not let it hurt, but it does.

No, being hurt isn't a sign of weakness ...

QualicumRN said...

I think you can be hurt if you let someone hurt you but u can be hurt if you don't believe in yourself as well. Is it a sign of weakness? I don't think so, it is a sign that one needs to learn how to deal with disappointments. If we look at negative experiences in our lives and try to see why it was negative what kind of impact it had on you and turn that result into a positive experience by saying....that won't happen to me again, I learn't from that. So no we don't have to always have to hurt.

QualicumRN said...

sorry for my poor grammar and spelling in my last post.....guess I am still a tad tired from my night shift....god bless and have a good day

Raine said...

1) no you can be hurt even if "you dont let them" but as ADULTS you can take some preventative measures to lessen the possibility which can be discussed on another post. However there are no guarantees and a child cannot protect themselves at all
2) Absolutely you can be hurt thru no fault of your own. Whyever would you think its YOUR fault if someone hurts you???
3)Being hurt is not a sign of weakness. We are humans not rocks

mysti said...

1. Can you only be hurt it you let someone hurt you?

No one can hurt you even if you do not let them. I have been hurt several times in my life with out asking for that pain.

2. Can you be hurt through no fault of your own?

Yes on this one. People will and can hurt you when it is not your fault.

3. Is being hurt a sign of weakness?

I am working on this one myself. I believe that it is not weakness. Most times though people who have been hurt take it as such. In reality it is not weakness at all.

These are just my beliefs. I have shut my feelings out for years so I understand these questions.

Wanda's Wings said...

JIP:feelings are hard for me to understand. Thanks for you input. I apperciate your thoughts.

Dreaming; Trying to fiqure out all these feeling is a trip. Thanks for sharing.

Mary Ann: Thanks for dropping by and sharing on m blog!

Raine: I quess trying to be so "strong" we think no one or anything can hurt us. Thanks for sharing.

Mysti: Turning off feelings makes it hard to understand them, when you are healing. Thank you for your support!

Sunnie Dee said...

You can be hurt whether you let someone hurt you or not. Yes you can be hurt through no fault of your own, and no its not a sign of weakness although many of us have been taught it is.

Wanda's Wings said...

Thanks Sonnie,
We are taught or have heard that you can only be hurt if you let someone hurt you. If you are hurt, then you have been weak. I agree with you.

survivor said...

Anyone can hurt you, but you can pretend that you aren't hurt, you can convince yourself that you're not hurt until it surfaces later on when you can deal with that hurt. Being hurt is not a sign of weakness, everyone hurts at one point or another, it takes strength and courage to admit that you are hurt, that you do feel and to face that hurt head on.

wolfbaby said...

I was hurt and it wasn't a matter of letting them hurt me... I didn't choose it and it still hurt.

The second i think is rephrasing the first... i don't mean to be smart or anything that is just how i see it.. I think you understand what i mean right wanda?

no being hurt is not a sign of weakness though i think many see it as such.. I see surving being hurt as a sing of great strength and courage.

Hugs

cheesemeister said...

I think that you can certainly be hurt through no fault of your own. People victimize other people every day. And being hurt isn't a sign of weakness. As to the idea that "you can only be hurt if you let someone hurt you," I think that's just so much psychobabble!