Tuesday, April 19, 2011

A Friend in Need

One of my friends just found out today her husband has cancer. They know it is on the liver, abdominal wall, and intestines.  They were doing gall bladder surgery when they found it. They believe it started from the pancreas, but will have to do a CAT scan to see what all is involved. The prognosis is poor. My heart is breaking for her.

Another friend just lost her husband to cancer a few months ago.I don't know what to say to my friend. We haven't know each other long, but she is a very kind person.

Every time I hear some bad news like this it takes me back to the night I lost Chris. I don't think anything can prepare you for this. Maybe he will respond to the treatment. I know how much I needed others, but I am still so raw, I'm not sure I could I would be much help. I have lost so much faith in the medical system.  

7 comments:

Sophia said...

Don't lose faith, Wanda. It's still there. I've been through a lot of loss myself and although I cannot give an answer as to why some things happen, I know that God cares and I do my best to just give things to Him and rest in that. Lifting you and your friend up. Hugs

middle child said...

Sometimes just saying, "I'm so sorry for your lose." and then listening to them talk is all that's needed.
For you....I wish you peace.

NOS said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's husband. I guess you could say that it's a good thing they caught it-- the earlier the better-- but it's still awful.

I know you love to care for others, but remember: you need to care about you first and foremost. If you don't feel like you could help your friend because of memories of Chris, then do what you need to to ensure your mental health. Would this be a friend you'd be willing to say this to?

Wishing you well,
NOS

Just Be Real said...

I am so very sorry about your friend's husband.

Just me said...

Praying for him x

sarah said...

Sorry Wanda. I hope the Easter holiday will be good for you...my heart is with you.

Faycin A Croud said...

We were expecting my father to die, but not on the day that he did. His color was good, so we expected that he had another couple of weeks in him. It was a relief that his suffering was done, though. Everyone's circumstance is different and anyone who ever says "get over it" needs a smack upside the head. You never get over it. The pain may numb out a bit over time but it will always be there.