Sunday, March 25, 2012

Hugs

I used to  hate to be touched. I had been hurt by so many hands that I would cringe when anyone would touch me. Having been abused at the hands of my mother, step father, and my ex husband I was afraid  that no one could be trusted. My former pastor and now dear friend  was the first one to let me know that all people need to be touched.. A hand on the shoulder, a gentle hug was something that  every human needs. From the time we are infants and through out entire life we need a loving touch. When you can't tell bad touch from a good one you begin to fear all human contact. I still have some problems with this, but I'm beginning to trust some dear friends to give me a hug and feel safe. I still have a  way to go but I am making progress.

8 comments:

Denise said...

Sending you great big hugs, prayers, and much love my friend.

Chatty Crone said...

Wanda - I'm sending a hug your way. sandie

Bobbi said...

(((((HUGS))))))) to you Wanda!

Eva Ason said...

(((((Big Hugs))))) to you my friend!

Eva

Just Be Real said...

Hugs Hugs Hugs Hugs to you dear one!

WillSpirit said...

As they say in AA, "seek progress, not perfection." We all heal from our wounds in stages, and the deepest cuts never fully disappear. But we are called to keep trying, keep working against our fears, keep moving toward trust. That is what I hear in your lovely post. Thank you.

The Real Cie said...

I don't like to be touched. Except for receiving therapeutic massages occasionally, I don't allow it.

Stefani said...

I LOVE your hugs! I know that it's a HUGE step for you to receive them. I remember Randy talking about it in church. I will never forget that day at church, hugging you while you cried and I cried. I think that bonded us together forever. Love you my friend.